- Evelyn, from the US

Hi Evelyn,

Thank you for your thoughtful question! Horses, like people, express themselves in unique ways. While some are openly expressive, others seem more reserved. What makes the difference?

Stoic behavior in horses can stem from both natural personality and learned behavior, but the context is essential. In environments where survival depends on avoiding unwanted attention, horses may suppress visible signs of pain or discomfort. While this trait is sometimes seen as “stoicism,” it’s not the whole story. In a natural herd setting, horses are highly communicative, expressing themselves through vocalizations, body language, and seeking support from others when stressed or injured. Their social interactions are nuanced and dynamic, built on mutual trust and understanding.

In domestic environments, however, horses may adopt stoicism as a response to how they are treated. If their expressions of discomfort, fear, or even joy are ignored—or worse, punished—they may learn to stop expressing themselves altogether. This is a phenomenon researchers call learned helplessness. A horse that seems “easygoing” might actually be disconnected, suppressing their needs or emotions to cope with their environment.

By paying close attention to our horse’s unique ways of communicating—a flick of an ear, a tail swish, a nicker, or even a change in posture—we can gain insight into their emotional world. Recognizing what lights them up, what calms them, and what stresses them helps create more balanced, fulfilling relationships. Horses, like people, thrive when they feel heard.

The Liberty Barn: A Case Study

This principle is beautifully demonstrated at The Liberty Barn in Palm City, Florida, an animal sanctuary founded by Karie Vander Werf, DVM. Many of the equines who arrive there have endured unimaginable levels of abuse and neglect. Yet, in this supportive environment where their physical and emotional needs are met, they rediscover their voices. These horses go from being withdrawn to becoming fully expressive members of an interspecies community.

By allowing horses the autonomy to express both pain and joy, we deepen our connection with them and remind ourselves of the importance of authenticity and mutual care. As Thích Nhất Hạnh might say, our relationships with horses reflect an “interbeing”—a profound interconnectedness. When we honor a horse’s individuality, we not only support their well-being but also give ourselves permission to know our own true selves.